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What is Your View on Leashes to Keep Children From Running Off?

What is the need for a leash for a child?

Honestly, my thoughts on this is there is no need. I worked in daycare for years. I had many kinds of children in my care. I took every single one of them on a walk while holding onto a walking rope. (Think of a rope with little loops they can hold on to). It is like a child holding your hand, but 20 of them. We walked on busy streets and there were no issues. We talked about what was required and if they did not listen they could not go next time and followed through with it.

With my own son I would hold his hand and walk with him. When I was getting things out of the car he had to touch the car with one finger so that he wouldn't get away from the car and get hurt. Literally touches the car with one finger and I know I can trust him not to bolt. He knows that means he goes back into the car and it is over.

I guess I just do not see the need. Someone enlighten me please.

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CowDung February 21, 2013 at 05:18 PM
No different than walking a dog that can slip out of his collar. It's still a bunch of kids being led with a rope.
Kari February 21, 2013 at 05:50 PM
Mr. Lundt, if we are confused with what is right vs. what is easiest, explain your version of "right" (since you seem to be placing leash parents in the category of what is easiest). Also, share with me how many children you have. This certainly makes a difference when judging another's parenting choices. Lastly, past generations were very much different, and cannot be fairly compared to today. Back in the day, unruly children were spanked, sometimes in public, and nobody flinched. Today, it's child abuse. Believe me, I would love to go back to the ideals of past generations. Unfortunately, society has changed too much. We have become soft and politically correct. We have also become a world riddled with known sexual predators and hundreds of thousands of more cars on the roads we cross. Back in the day (we're talking my childhood in the 70's-80's), we rarely wore seat belts in the back seat. Today, I would be hauled to jail if my child is not in an approved car seat until they're 12. My point: no parent wants to be judged on their choices, and with all of the "no-no's" put on us by society, it's hard to come up with a completely acceptable way of raising a child.
Mr Lundt February 21, 2013 at 06:06 PM
Kari, I have two children 18 months apart. I cannot imagine that anyone suggest that leashing a child is right. What you WILL get are excuses for WHY they do it anyway. No one on this blog suggested it was right---they all told us why they were immune from the judgements. Finally I think we need MORE judgement of acceptable standards. Judgement is a GREAT trait to have and instill in our children. There is so much good on having clear lines of good and bad. Expressing the judgment is an entirely different matter and is based on when and where and how... All that said, I hope you have seen even in this blog I have backed off of my initial tone a bit. I should have stated my opinion in a more intelligent way in post #1. I can see where I (helped) unnecessarily rile people up.
Tara Lenihan February 21, 2013 at 07:55 PM
Actually, the 'technology' has been used for several hundred years (at least). In the 1700s leads were sewn directly into toddler's clothing.
Tara Lenihan February 21, 2013 at 08:00 PM
One thing that gets me is that some of those opposed to leashed seem to compare them to animal leashes. I don't think that most people know that most of these 'packs' can be removed by the child. A friend of mine used one and her child actually preferred to have it when they were in very crowded places. I'm talking about a toddler, though, not a 6 year old.
ddlc78 February 21, 2013 at 08:24 PM
There is no right and wrong with something like this. It's more what you choose to do with your child versus what someone else would do with their child. Just because you don't like it does not make it wrong.
Mr Lundt February 21, 2013 at 08:59 PM
I have yet to hear one parent suggest that this is the the leash right method. What they do is explain why they are the exception to sound judgement. I will tell you that if parents of three year olds are already resorting to leashes---- I am sincerely scared for them when their kids become teens.
Mama Bear February 21, 2013 at 09:03 PM
Craig I do have to say as a former foster parent I do not think the caseworkers would be ok with the kids on a leash. They are into everything you do and I do not think they would allow it, so your comment made me think about that. Is it abuse? No...but I bet they wouldn't let a foster parent do it.
Mama Bear February 21, 2013 at 09:04 PM
AMEN on that Mr. Lundt.
Mama Bear February 21, 2013 at 09:06 PM
Though I have joked about it...no. LOL
Mama Bear February 21, 2013 at 09:11 PM
Here is an article on this http://www.helium.com/items/1542896-toddler-leashes
Mama Bear February 21, 2013 at 09:12 PM
I have to agree. I am raising a man...I tell him that all the time. "You have learn from what mistakes you make and have to learn right from wrong, and how to act in public as you need to be a good man someday"
Mama Bear February 21, 2013 at 09:14 PM
A very good article. http://www.bellaonline.com/articles/art20502.asp
CowDung February 21, 2013 at 09:31 PM
Why wouldn't caseworkers be OK with child leashes? It's not like the kids are tied to their bedposts or are being kept in a cage. Several parents cited that the leashes help keep kids safe--do the caseworkers object to the use of seatbelts as well?
CowDung February 21, 2013 at 09:33 PM
Caseworkers apparently have no issue with someone leading 20 kids around on a rope--why is having 1 kid a leash so much different?
Mama Bear February 21, 2013 at 09:45 PM
The reason is unknown but I am willing to bet they would have an issue with it. They dictate WAY more to foster parents then they ever would any other parent. I mean...they literally measure between beds, tell them what daycare they can and cannot send the kids to (a lot of times), go into your cabinets, check every crevice of your home...every single month so I am just saying I am willing to bet they would not approve of this. It is not a rope. It is well...this...http://www.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://daycaremall.com/images/er/BNWWR99.JPG&imgrefurl=http://daycaremall.com/walkingrope.html&h=400&w=400&sz=20&tbnid=qiqUOam8fifoiM:&tbnh=90&tbnw=90&zoom=1&usg=__lB7bC4qRIT3L8xylB2ub2lXFgrk=&docid=shQWCiFdLkmqCM&hl=en&sa=X&ei=65QmUcq8LaWl2AXupIHAAg&ved=0CFMQ9QEwBA&dur=333
Mama Bear February 21, 2013 at 09:46 PM
Link didn't work. Try this. http://www.discountschoolsupply.com/Product/ProductDetail.aspx?product=21960
CowDung February 21, 2013 at 10:00 PM
Yes, I am familiar with the 'walking rope' concept. To me, it's the same sort of thing as the leash--the kids are still being led around by the adult on the other end of the leash...
Mama Bear February 21, 2013 at 10:04 PM
I have to disagree. One, I never held it. The kids only did. and two, they are not tied to it. They can let go and could run off if they wanted. It was just a way to keep them all walking in the same direction.
CowDung February 21, 2013 at 10:24 PM
The woman pictured in your link is certainly holding it. Yes, the children are trained to hold the rope and walk behind you. The only thing missing is that you probably don't have to use the "heel" command. Kids are kept restrained in their strollers--why don't you take issue with that? At least with a leash, the kids are able to walk around and explore. They have some level of freedom. The poor kids in strollers have to just sit there and only see what is presented for them to see.
CowDung February 21, 2013 at 10:32 PM
That same company offers the 'Walkodile® Quattro'--complete with harnesses for each child... http://www.discountschoolsupply.com/Product/ProductDetail.aspx?Product=30753&rec=PDHbot
CowDung February 21, 2013 at 10:34 PM
How old do kids have to be before they are able to consistently hang on to the rope and walk with the rest of the kids?
Tara Lenihan February 22, 2013 at 12:59 AM
I have read comments stating that these things are not necessary; but I have not read a comment that explained WHY they are so bad, other than some people comparing them (directly or indirectly) to animal leashes. Strollers are not necessary, safety gates are not necessary, window locks are not necessary, bed rails are not necessary, toddler training toilets are not necessary; but we accept their uses as 'helpers' in safety as we raise and teach our children. I also don't understand why this topic is publicly debated as a though it is a controversial new idea on the market when this type of thing has been used for young children for centuries. There are no collars and a child can remove them fairly easily, so it's not the same as being tied up. They are supposed to aid in helping a child learn to walk properly on their own. Did you have a baby walker in your livingroom?
Randy1949 February 22, 2013 at 04:51 PM
I actually know someone who is all sniffy and superior about not using strollers. Her children were carried in baby slings exclusively, which of course is lovely so long as you're a strong enough person and you don't have a child that weighs more than average. There's always something to be judgmental about in the Wonderful World of Modern Parenting.
Randy1949 February 22, 2013 at 05:16 PM
@Tara Lenihan -- Interesting comment about the animal leashes. Our law recognizes canine nature to the point that a leash is required on a dog, even though most dogs are capable of being trained to voice command. I say most of them, most of the time. However, not all dogs are perfectly 'trainable' and even the best dog can be distracted by a squirrel or a perceived threat from another dog. This is why we have leashes, and we don't call people lazy owners for using them. A very young child has not yet developed discretion or self-control no matter how good a parent is. Theoretically, if all children were well-disciplined we would not need safety caps on medicines or child safety locks on other things. A harness with a strap seems extreme, but it might be prudent with some children. Better safe than sorry.
CowDung February 22, 2013 at 05:18 PM
My wife and I gave the sling a try--it wasn't uncomfortable to wear at all. I found it much more comfortable than the 'Baby Bjorn' carrier--even with a bigger baby. Our problem was that we couldn't get past the feeling that the kid was going to roll out of it or the ring/loop would come undone and dump the kid onto the ground. Probably unfounded fears, but the stroller seemed to provide more peace of mind for us. I think that parents need to do whatever seems to work best for them and not worry about what others think.
Randy1949 February 22, 2013 at 05:43 PM
I had the same experience with the slings -- They're fine if you're upright and walking, but not so good for bending over to pick something up. And it's the same with the back-carriers. There's one other drawback to the body-carriers -- if the parent were to fall, like on an icy sidewalk or a slippery trail, the infant or toddler has no control over the landing. With a stroller, you might be lying on the ground groaning, but the baby will be okay. "I think that parents need to do whatever seems to work best for them and not worry about what others think." Boy howdy, this is a lesson we all learn with experience, especially as a grandparent. Children are all different. What works with one won't work with another, and they don't come with instruction manuals. My grandson does things his father never did, and while some of it may be nurture, there's some nature involved.
Tom Kamenick February 25, 2013 at 01:02 PM
We used one once - when we are on a trip to a very busy and very unfamiliar city with our 23-month old who loved to walk and hated strollers, being carried, etc., and we had multiple children along. We didn't even use it constantly, just when we were going to be in large crowds. I agree with Tara. They can be a great helper. Using one certainly gives your child more freedom than being in a stroller or carried. There are times when unfettered freedom isn't appropriate for very young children.
gardengirl February 25, 2013 at 08:43 PM
So does this mean it won't bother you in the least when you park in a handicap spot with the necessary sticker and everyone judges you as being lazy because you don't have a wheelchair? I would bet that based on your attitude you have commented on these people several times not knowing that they actually have another medical condition. It's easy to judge people based on only the limited facts you have in front of you.
Lika Phipps February 25, 2013 at 09:52 PM
Well, as a parent, you know if your child is a minder or a runner, and that you are either the one holding the command or not. I once lived next door to a single mom of a basketball team, and seriously? She would scream in a whiny way and beg her children to behave. No wonder why they didn't mind her. Of course there just those kids who cannot be under control. I just think that kids are pretty cool. They sense that. And they also know when I'm serious, and they are good.

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