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Entitled Nation

Many of you are reacting to the secret tape of Mitt Romney characterizing half of our country as entitled freeloaders, who don't pay taxes. This was said in a private dinner in front of many other one per-centers whom Mr Romney shares more in common with then me and you. Mitt was only saying something that he and the elite feel is true. We are a country of makers and takers and the takers caught in a struggle.

 As much as I hate to agree with Mr. Romney there is some validity in what he said. Now the broad characterization was absurdly wrong and offensive and will likely bring further damage to his already free falling campaign. However we do have a nation that has embraced an entitlement destiny and it goes much further then welfare and food stamps.

 It starts in the millions of homes and families across our country and the contributing reasons are exposed daily.I've been a youth sports coach for a number of years. I coach basketball, football and baseball. Being a coach I come into contact with many families during each season and I get to see the affect of instilling entitlement into our children every day. Let me share with you an example of this dynamic with a player we will call Johnny.

Johnny comes from a suburban family with two working parents. Johnny is the oldest of three. He goes to a good school and lives in a nice three bedroom home with flat screen televisions, an iPad and his own iPod touch. Johnny's mom post lots of pictures on Face book and his dad brags to his friends at work that he's playing little league.

Johnny shows up to practice with $70 cleats and the best bat, glove and bag on the team. His parents sit near the field for practices and game mainly watching his at bats or when he is on the field. The rest of the time they are on their smart phones or talking amongst themselves. Well Johnny's coach sees that while a good and decent kid. Johnny doesn't like to be told what to do. To run faster, to focus and pay attention, to keep his eye on the ball. Johnny isn't very good and doesnt even try to make himself a better player.

Johnny's coach makes the decision that Steven is better and will start the game and Johnny will be a back up.Johnny goes home and complains to his dad, telling him "coach wont let me play". Johnny's mom writes the coach an email complaining that it's not fair that Johnny doesnt play and he makes just as many mistakes as the next player. She's upset that Johnny wont be the starting third basemen at the next game because his grandparents are coming. His mom also complains to the league manager about this and through this kind of pressure, the coach gives in and Johnny is allowed to start at first base.

This happens daily in youth sports. Parents through the best and most loving intentions, lavish their kids with everything they could want. They fail to teach their children the lesson of working hard to earn things in life. These same parents try to grease the skids of their child's early society so that child never experiences defeat, disappointment or constructive judgement. These parents are only planting the seeds of "Ït's someone else's fault that I'm not achieving."Youth sports is an excellent place to teach children some of the most important lessons in life.

I've been blessed to coach my son for a number of years and I try to show him. There are wins and losses in life. Someone else will have more, you wont always get that promotion, you will be asked to do more without recognition in time. Every kid shouldn't get a ribbon. We need to create more incentives for our children. No I don't feel we should harshly withold from them to teach them a lesson, but sending children out into a world that has increasingly become more tilted to a privileged few without a sense of motivation to work for what they deserve is short-sided and wrong.We live in a society of instant gratification where everything is set up to avoid the word "no".

The best way to tackle entitlement is in our own families, homes and communities. Teach our children hard work, sacrifice and of course great reward. Also as adults we must re-learn that sometimes the workd no can inspire and motivate us to do more then we thought was possible. It doesnt take a political candidate to end entitlement as we know it. It starts with us.

Bob McBride

7:03 am on Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Excellent post, Terry. While I don't disagree totally with the spirit of what Romney said (it's a matter of degree), there is the other side of entitlement that you've addressed here that's very apparent to anyone living on the North Shore in particular and that rarely gets addressed seriously.

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Kim Jacobson

12:41 pm on Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Wow! I believe there are many that agree with your post. Entitlement, just like education, values, and much more, really does begin at home.

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Lyle Ruble

1:07 pm on Wednesday, September 19, 2012

@Terry...You hit the ball out of the park. Like McBride, I see it everyday here on the North Shore.

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Bewildered

1:12 pm on Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Lyle, Shorewood's east side is hardly representative of the North Shore. Just ask Sandy Pasch. Do you ever travel north of Capital Dr.or west of I-43?

Scot Bartels

1:09 pm on Wednesday, September 19, 2012

While the example that you point to is a good example of the "entitlement" mentality, I don't really think it is what Romney was talking about. As bad as the 'my little Johnny deserves everything' attitude is, that is just exmples of bad parenting. The 'how dare you want to take away free birth controll' is more of what Romney was talking about. In 2009 the bottom 50% of taxpayers paid only 2.25% of the total federal income tax burden. So you have half of taxpayers paying almost nothing in federal income taxes. Of that bottom 50%, how many of them get some sort of government handout? We have generation after generation of people living on government handouts. When you suggest any type of change to teh system to try to get them off of the handouts you hear the left accuse you of wanting the poor to starve to death. That's not true. Conservatives want people to be able to take care of themselves and not need goverment.

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oak creek resident

10:56 am on Thursday, September 20, 2012

Terry is focusing on the softening of our kids, where everyone is made to be a winner and get what they want.

Totally different than the entitlement mentality where certain people expect everyone else to pay for their housing, food, etc.

Terry missed the mark by about 10 miles.

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Bren

2:36 pm on Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Yep, that's what a recession looks like. Amazing how 8 years of failed GOP policies could turn into such a cluster, isn't it Steve?

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Steve ®

3:13 pm on Wednesday, September 19, 2012

So obama is unable to fix it as promised and making it much worse. Thanks for confirmation non federal income tax payer.

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Scot Bartels

4:08 pm on Wednesday, September 19, 2012

@Bren: The national debt has gone up MORE in 4 years (less than 4 actually) of Obama than it did in 8 years of Bush. This is in no way a defense of Bush but this 'Don't blame Obama. It's all Bush's fault' bs is getting old. After 4 years of Obama this nation is not in better shape. We are MUCH FARTER in debt. We have massive new entitlement programs. The unemployment has been stuck above 8% for a very long time. Real unemployment is in the double digits. I have seen no evidence that Obama has improved things since he took office. And what are his plans? Raise taxes and spend more money. As if we didn't have enough of that already.

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Nuitari

4:20 pm on Wednesday, September 19, 2012

A NATION OF MOOCHERS AMERICA HAS BECOME.

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Steve ®

5:05 pm on Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Bren's buddy doesn't even know what the debt is at, or what caused it, or how to fix it, or well anything about it's pending doom on their precious government. Super awesome choice you picked Bren

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6D55384wiUg

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Keith E. Hendrickson

10:03 pm on Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Actually the Democrats, Reid and Pelosi took took over the House and Senate in 2006. So really Obama and the Democratic policies has been going on since 2006. That is 6 years of Democratic control, not 4. This is the Democrats and Obama. Period. Sorry liberals that you have to start to own your own mess.

Avenging Angel

2:11 pm on Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Entitlementalism n. A philosophy whereby the adherents unreasonably believe that everything in life should be provided to them and they have to pay for nothing.

Entitlemental adj. The state of being of an adherent of Entitlementalism.

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mau

2:23 pm on Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Who said that Romney was only speaking in front of 1%ers?

Who says only the elite agree with Romney? The brainwashing media?

Who has determined that Romney's campaign is "free falling campaign"? The brainwashing media?

I must be one of the 1%er elite.

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Randy1949

10:38 am on Thursday, September 20, 2012

$50,000 a plate for dinner kind of suggests that most of the diners were 1% types. However, you can see the servers moving around preparing drinks, and at least one 47 percenter had set up a camera to catch Mitt acting naturally for once.

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Keith E. Hendrickson

7:17 pm on Thursday, September 20, 2012

For the last 2 years Obama has been doing nothing but campaigning and has gone to more $50,000-$250,000 dinners then Romney did yet Romney is the only guy going after the rich people's money. Love to see how delusional Obama drones are and the fact they are jealous/coveting the success of Romney. They will be coveting the success of Romney even more when he follows rock star Scott Walkers epic landslide victory over his idiotic bubbling campaigner in chief. Obama should be impeached for his handling over the attacks and deaths of our Ambassador as it was an act of war and he does nothing but bow and show weakness.

Greg

2:29 pm on Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Johnny is a bit spoiled and really needs some life lessons to help him be a productive team member or productive member of society, but never never ever expect him to go so far as providing a photo I.D. to play in the game.

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Keith E. Hendrickson

2:57 pm on Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Here is the real problem at stake with our country. Half our country is poor or near poor who doesn't pay taxes. 47% is a good round number of where the entitlement mentality is at.

Now when we get to a point where half the country expects something for nothing on the backs of the working class soon after the other half who does work and sacrifice will realize their hard work isn't worth it especially since it is going to many lazy bums. How soon will those 50% give up and say FU to the other 50%?

If that happens I think a civil war will break out and many civilizations died out because of this. Example Rome and Greece. They got too big, lazy and entitled and every major power all thought they were untouchable.

What Romney said was true and we live in a political correct environment when people like Romney speaks the truth very bluntly people's feelings get hurt and they lash out. Well sorry, this country is in grave shape and we no longer have time to coddle the message to prevent little Johnny's feelings getting hurt because nobody had the balls to tell them that America was built on hard work, sacrifice and the risk to better your individual footprint on your own life, not a collective society where we are dependent on a Government who decides which foods I can eat and how big my soda can be. I in the end am responsible for my own health and can pay the consequence later. That is called responsibility but until then lets get a little reality back.

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Randy1949

10:43 am on Thursday, September 20, 2012

That 47% includes the working poor, the elderly who paid income taxes all their lives prior to retirement, and even soldiers who are exempt from federal income tax on their combat pay. I guess Mitt Romney feels entitled to shift more of his tax burden onto those people. Way to insult people who are working and trying to make a go of it, Mitt.

The percentage of people who live off the government is much, much less.

Craig

3:44 pm on Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Nice post Mr. Burkett. Sadly little Johnny will grow up, go to school- and maybe get a job. He will feel frusterated because he is paying taxes to a Government that coddles people with handouts. He will look at the neighbor who doesn't work and drives a newer car than Johnny.
Eventually Johnny will say F it, and join the ranks of the non working public assistance people. Many others will follow Johnny, and eventually we will have more people coasting on the dole than working.
But that is Obama's dream of his father- or is it his too?

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Nuitari

6:44 pm on Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Terry Burkett, nicely done, and if you are familiar with my comments, that's huge.

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C. Sanders

10:10 pm on Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Obama cultivates skaters and moochers to remain in power and to extend that power to the next Democrat political generation. Obama grew up as a 1%'er. Grandma in Hawaii was a bank VP and Barack went to only the most elite schools. He lived in the most exclusive neighborhood in Indonesia. Barack is a 1%'er that polished his schtick to gain power. He could care less about the 99%, because he has never lived that life and never will.

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Melissa P.

11:18 pm on Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Great post. No matter what side of the fence you are on you can agree with certain points made. As always, well written.

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atthec44

10:11 am on Thursday, September 20, 2012

The paragraph about where Johnny comes from is interesting but I wonder how it would read if we were talking about an inner city “family”. Maybe something like this…

Tyrone comes from an inner city family with zero full time working parents. Tyrone’s mother dropped out of high school when she got pregnant with him at 16 years old. She is now 22 years old and has 5 kids from 4 different fathers. You see, Tyrone’s father actually stuck around long enough to knock her up a second time before being sentenced to 7 years in prison for armed robbery. Tyrone goes to an underperforming school where the teachers are more concerned with having Viagra covered in their taxpayer funded health care plan than they are with teaching Tyrone how to read, write and do basic math. Tyrone lives in a 3 bedroom apartment with flat screen televisions, cable TV, a laptop computer and his own iPod touch. Even though Tyrone’s mom only works 25 hours a week at a hair salon, she can afford all these luxuries because she doesn’t have to pay for health insurance, child care, rent, utilities or even food for her children. Tyrone’s mom posts lots of pictures on Facebook and Tyrone’s father brags to his cell mate that since he’s in prison “he don’t got to take care of dem kids no mo.”

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Quietwood Guy

10:54 am on Thursday, September 20, 2012

Great post Terry! It was so good, it made me want to fist pump in the air. As the great Michael Jackson said, "I'm starting with the man in the mirror".

There is a great conflict in being a parent in that if you feel that sense of responsibility to raise your child and provide, educate, and give them the tools for them to pursue an enjoyable life. Sometimes the provide role can conflict with the educate role.

For all parents, the cliche phrase "tough love" is where you put more emphasis on the educate, and provide the tools to grow. Also tough love is where actions have repercussions where your children's pain and hurt instill the tools they will thrive by. Don't worry, they will understand more when they are older.

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oak creek resident

10:58 am on Thursday, September 20, 2012

So Terry does your kid have a gaming system, flat screen tv, mp3 player, etc?

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Greg

11:03 am on Thursday, September 20, 2012

Another example of Entitled Nation involves Suzy, rather than Johnny. Suzy's school district ended the tradition of Father/Daughter Dances, for ALL of the girls, because Suzy's mom is too much of a skank to keep a man around, to take Suzy to the dance.

http://www.latimes.com/news/nation/nationnow/la-na-nn-father-daughter-dances-gender-discrimination-20120918,0,2172144.story

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Satori

11:15 am on Thursday, September 20, 2012

@ Greg - you hate life, I'm convinced of it

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Terry Burkett

2:51 pm on Thursday, September 20, 2012

Thanks for the feedback! First of all this wasnt the forum for Obama v. Romney. It's a way to look at ourselves in the mirror and see how we make changes in an entitled society. We can fix adults but we can certainly teach our kids self reliance

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Scot Bartels

3:32 pm on Thursday, September 20, 2012

But your article is based on what Romney said about the entitled society. Maybe you did not intend it to turn into a Romney v. Obama forum but considering the election is just around the corner what did you honestly expect? If you simply wanted it to be an article about the parents who think their little Johnny can do no wrong and deserves everything that he wants that could have been written without bringing up Romney and his (as you put it) "free falling campaign". Heck all you need to do is tune into one episode of American Idol when they are taking the first auditions. Someone whose singing sounds like a cat being skinned alive (not that I ACTUALLY know what that sounds like) have been told their whole life that they are a good singer. Not once did one of their parents say 'Johnny, you can't sing'. And when the judges tell them the honest truth they are simply shocked. Not only are they shocked, they think the judges are wrong. They actually think that they sound good and deserve to get picked by the judges.

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Randy1949

3:51 pm on Thursday, September 20, 2012

If this article wasn't to be about Romney versus Obama and the whole entitlement issue, you probably should not have started it with a paragraph about Mitt Romney being right.

Spoiled kids are one thing, but i wonder why 'entitlement' has become such a dirty word. We ARE entitled to things. If I pay the Acme Life Insurance Company premiums for thirty years and then I die, my beneficiaries are entitled to the death benefit. If I pay thirty thousand dollars for a new car, I'm entitled to one where the wheels don't fall off during the first hundred miles I drive it. If I'm laid off from a job, I'm entitled to unemployment compensation while I look for new work. And if I don't make enough income to owe federal income tax, I'm entitled to not be called a moocher.

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Craig

11:04 pm on Thursday, September 20, 2012

Randy: Life insurance death benefits are not an entitlement- it is a contract....stop paying and the death benefit stops. The guarantee is if you keep PAYING, then you are covered. Far from an entitlement.
That 30 thousand dollar car warranty is not an entitlement, you payed for the warranty in the price of the car.
Unemployment compensation is also like insurance. The employer pays unemployment insurance. The first 26 weeks is paid for, how the hell we got to 99 weeks is nuts, talk about incentive to stay home.
Federal income tax is a joke. Low wage earners often get more back than they pay in, yet we supposedly got rid of welfare. In reality we found other ways to give entitlements without the naughty welfare word. How people can get thousands of dollars back from the Fed. when they barely pay anything in is an insult to those of us trying to support a Government that can't stop smoking the credit card.
We're all entitled to our own opinion...

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Randy1949

9:55 am on Friday, September 21, 2012

That's not quite accurate, Craig. With whole life or variable life or whatever they're calling those policies now, even if you stop paying you do get a cash value. But what I'm saying is that the company can't take your payments for a $100K policy and then say, after thirty years of those payments, "Sorry, our company hasn't been doing as well as we thought. You're only getting $75K."

Federal income tax is indeed a joke, but if you will remember, things like the EIC and the childcare credits were put in place as incentives to work a job rather than take general assistance or AFDC. You will also find working people who qualify for none of these deductions and credits who don't make enough to pay federal income tax either. To call them moochers is incredibly callous.

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Randy1949

10:19 am on Friday, September 21, 2012

I guess it all depends on how you define entitlement. You know very well that the 'entitlements' of Social Security and Medicare are on the line along with other social programs.

There are reasons some things are called entitlements -- if you pay for something you're entitled to the value originally agreed upon. Since you bring up birth control, people who work for religiously-based institutions pay their employee contributions for the insurance plans in force. Why should they pay the same amount of money in premiums as people working for secular organisations and not get the same level of coverage, simply because their employer is squeamish about certain things? Making birth control less accessible will not save on employee health costs and premiums overall.

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Craig

10:49 am on Friday, September 21, 2012

Randy: I agree that it depends on how you define entitlement- especially at the political level. The whole welfare to work plan never did work out, as you can see we give tax credits to those who pay hardly anything into the system. There are two types of Social Security disability- the type you and I have paid for as an insurance plan, and there is the smaller amount ($588/mo) that is for the disabled who never worked. This is a form of welfare in and of itself. I have no problem with paying $588 to someone truely disabled, don't get me wrong.
We have to agree to disagree on the birth controll thing. I can tell you my wife pays the whole cost of her bc meds, if her employer changes the insurance company then it will be covered at 100%. This is STUPID....
If I want a Rx for viagra, I have to satisfy my $5000/ year deductible before I can have that covered (if it even is). This doesn't make me shout from the rooftops that Obama is against men.

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CowDung

10:51 am on Friday, September 21, 2012

Randy:

I take no issue with SS and Medicare being used by people who those programs are intended to help. I don't think that anyone has stated anything to the contrary.

As far as your insurance coverage comment, if people are getting less of a benefit, then they probably should be paying less toward that benefit. Insurance plans aren't all the same--employees working at different companies might be paying different premiums for the same level of coverage.

Terry Burkett

2:55 pm on Thursday, September 20, 2012

@ atthec44 the scenario you mention has many roots much deeper then entitlement programs. I think it takes extraordinary understanding of the history of race in our country to see what happens when you mix race, poverty and social programs. If it was inner city kid it would be different in some ways. This characterization you lay out looks ominously like the "welfare queen" imagery that those who judge from a far conveniently roll out. I am a black man, have relatives, friends and neighbors who aren't well off and that picture you painted isnt prevalent like you may think. Just like the Johnny character isnt uniquely a "Northshore" thing. Both issues come back to parents putting down our toys and raising our children.

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Scot Bartels

3:36 pm on Thursday, September 20, 2012

I just keep flashing to the women saying they were here to get "Obama money". They didn't know where he got it from but thought it was from his "stash".

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fOZ-Etb0k0Q

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Scot Bartels

3:39 pm on Thursday, September 20, 2012

Of course then there is this "gem". Wonder if Obama is paying for her gas yet?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P36x8rTb3jI&feature=related

Terry Burkett

2:57 pm on Thursday, September 20, 2012

@oak creek resident. We have a Wii that basically never gets touched May thru January due to my son's sports activities. We have one flat screen in the family room. I have a MP3 player on my phone. We dont own an iPod, iPad, Kindle, etc. I dont beleive that stuff is needed to raise a happy child.

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CowDung

3:09 pm on Thursday, September 20, 2012

While I agree with you that those things are not needed to raise a happy child, I would argue that having those things isn't necessarily a bad thing either. I think the issue is whether or not one views them as 'necessities', as 'luxuries' or as 'entitlements'.

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CowDung

3:34 pm on Thursday, September 20, 2012

...and in the spirit of full dislosure, our household does have an iPad, a Kindle, and an X-Box. We have 2 flat screen TVs with antenna reception only. We also have a family computer that is shared between the kids and me (my wife has her own computers that are used primarily for her work).

Mary Baker

4:41 pm on Thursday, September 20, 2012

It disturbs me to see the customer in front of me at the grocery store with the food voucher and her kid wearing the new expensive sneakers, with his expensive cell phone and his gold grill. So let's not talk about the kid who parents can afford to indulge him and whose parent pay their far share and then support the rest of the entitlement crap out there!

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Randy1949

5:55 pm on Thursday, September 20, 2012

I'll bet they drove off in a Cadillac too.

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James R Hoffa

6:29 pm on Thursday, September 20, 2012

@Randy1949 -

Funny thing about reality is that if you want to see a lot of Cadillacs concentrated in a specific area, all you need to do is cruise the ghetto - practically all you see is the Cadillac wreath and crest, and that's no lie! You also see $1k+ spinner wheels and loads of other kinds of excess!

Why do people that can obviously afford such excess need government assistance? Doesn't that outrage you? It should!

H.E. Pennypacker

10:55 am on Friday, September 21, 2012

More Americans Added to Food Stamps Than Find Jobs. Only a moron would vote for Barack Obama, its that simple.

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